John Lennon Was Not Quite Correct
Life isn't what happens to you while you're busy making other plans; life is what happens to complicate the plans you make. Everything is about choice and setting priorities.
An example: over the last year, I committed to seeking a path for career advancement with the credit union, because I am committed to a future of success and fulfillment, for Marina's sake as well as my own. The credit union is a good place to work; I believe in what I do; but I don't know that I want to do exactly what I'm doing now for the rest of my life.
At the same time, Marina and I decided to move to Santa Cruz, because we were committed to living with more space, and less stress-especially parking stress. And now we have a garden, where we have planted flowers and vegetables in an apt metaphor for putting down roots.
Both endeavors sprang from my commitment to a wonderful relationship. So it was ironic that the first option that came along at the credit union was not one I could pursue, as a direct result of my moving to Santa Cruz. As a telecommuter, I couldn't meet the requirements for the position that I really wanted.
Last week, another position was announced that was open to telecommuters, but the hours were totally incompatible with the need to plan a wedding, as it would require working Friday through Monday, every week, crimping the only chances Marina and I would have for time off together. It did provide a very nice moment of recognition for me, in that two members of the upper management of the credit union specifically reached out to me to see if I was going to apply for the new position; both understood that I could not pursue that option at this time. It felt good that they thought highly enough of me to reach out like that, so I can't complain about how it worked out.
Hopefully down the road, other circumstances will materialize. But this is how life goes. Making one choice in one area of your life shifts the path you can take in another area. There is nothing wrong with that, but it is an interesting aspect of living as a grown-up.
An example: over the last year, I committed to seeking a path for career advancement with the credit union, because I am committed to a future of success and fulfillment, for Marina's sake as well as my own. The credit union is a good place to work; I believe in what I do; but I don't know that I want to do exactly what I'm doing now for the rest of my life.
At the same time, Marina and I decided to move to Santa Cruz, because we were committed to living with more space, and less stress-especially parking stress. And now we have a garden, where we have planted flowers and vegetables in an apt metaphor for putting down roots.
Both endeavors sprang from my commitment to a wonderful relationship. So it was ironic that the first option that came along at the credit union was not one I could pursue, as a direct result of my moving to Santa Cruz. As a telecommuter, I couldn't meet the requirements for the position that I really wanted.
Last week, another position was announced that was open to telecommuters, but the hours were totally incompatible with the need to plan a wedding, as it would require working Friday through Monday, every week, crimping the only chances Marina and I would have for time off together. It did provide a very nice moment of recognition for me, in that two members of the upper management of the credit union specifically reached out to me to see if I was going to apply for the new position; both understood that I could not pursue that option at this time. It felt good that they thought highly enough of me to reach out like that, so I can't complain about how it worked out.
Hopefully down the road, other circumstances will materialize. But this is how life goes. Making one choice in one area of your life shifts the path you can take in another area. There is nothing wrong with that, but it is an interesting aspect of living as a grown-up.
posted by Devin at 2:00 PM
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